From: David Foss
How many displeased parents are rearing rebellious children? Is this heartrending situation a rarity for parents or has this deviation from the norm become all too commonplace? Because of many parents' shortcomings, rebelliousness has become prevalent around the world.
Who is to blame when children rebel against their parents and others in authority? Have they not been reared in the "nurture and admonition" of the Lord? If not, why not? Can't parents spend at least a few minutes per day conversing with their children? Ephesians 6:4
How do rebellious children arrive at this transgressive state and are they mindful of the consequences of their rebelliousness? Could they have reached this transgressive state as a result of the listless attitudes of the parents? Bingo! That's it!
Disobedient children should be dealt with as God states in Scripture - with Biblical discipline. Proverbs 13:24; 19:18; 22:15; 23:13-14; 29:15,17. If parents are not consistent with disciplinary action, their children are apt to jump ship and get themselves in a strong current (a bad situation) that could be an impairment to their lives. If parents even give in to their children's tantrums but one time, their children will never forget this particular time. They might think, "Well, I got away with it once, why not try the outburst syndrome again?" When children get their own way, it almost becomes a certainty that they will become repeat offenders of exasperation.
If parents would rear their children according to Scripture and not spare the rod, such uncivil behavior would be quickly suppressed. A child's herky-jerky attack (a tantrum) on the parents should not occur even once. Parents simply need to clearly explain to their children (with a heart of love, not anger) that bad behavior will always result in the rod (a switch applied to their seat of understanding). Rather than dealing with the problem of disobedience, many parents succumb to the tantrum so there can be peace in the home and to end embarrassing scenes in stores, etc. Parents can either deal with a minor problem now or a major problem later. Proverbs 22:6
How can parents protect their children from the evil of the world? They need to talk about God and His Word every day. If parents would do as Scripture says, by the time children would leave home, they would be very well grounded (would have a strong foundation) in Scripture. Deuteronomy 6:5-7 We could tally it up thusly: 4 times a day x 365 days = 1,460 x 16 years (starting at age 2) = 23,360 conversations about God and His word. Having Scripture firmly fixed into their psyche will certainly help to shield them from the evils of the world. Even if they do jump ship (from their belief), could they possibly forget all the thousands of Biblical conversations about God and His word? Should beacons be disappointed about their grade point average? II Timothy 3:15
It is up to every parent to mention God often, and why not? We talk about everything else, things that we know are not nearly as important. Building a strong, Biblical foundation within our children's hearts will be good for them and everyone else. We wouldn't want our children to go into battle without any armor. Ephesians 6:11-12
What does the future hold for the rebellious individual? How will defiant individuals get along with society? Will they become forlorn outcasts? Undoubtedly, they will not do well. Why? Because defiant individuals do not like to follow rules and life has many rules. Who can these given-their-own-way children blame when their lives go by in a very harrowing fashion? You are right? Mama and Papa.
If parents neglect to fulfill their role as parents, they will probably reap heartache as a result of their inconsistency and complacency in parenting. If parents are consistent in disciplining their children in accordance with Scripture, their children (when they become adults) will be very appreciative of their parents having reared them as God so commands in Scripture. Why? Because they will know that their parents loved them enough not to let them go out into the world as undisciplined hellions. An undisciplined child is not going to experience much joy in life, because the world does not cater favorably to the spoiled or undisciplined.
How can parents greatly lessen the odds that their children will not go the way of Satan...the way of the world? By talking to their children about God and His word.
Ponder Deuteronomy 6:5-7