From: T.M. Schoewe
Last week we left you with the thought from scripture that “…a man…will…be united to his wife…the two will become one flesh…So they are no longer two but one” (Matt. 19: 4-6).
So marriage is not like what we might see on TV or like “modern dancing” where people do not seem to pay close attention or care what the other person does. There is no real coordination. Each one does his or her own thing in the general area of their partner. And of course in society today, partners don’t even have to be of the opposite sex as God intended.
We think happily married couples are more like the “Blue Danube” dance or some other flowing waltz. They hold each other carefully, just so, and pay close attention to one another together as a unit moving in harmony, watching one another’s eyes and feet. He and she waltz as individuals but do so connected to each other and in unison, one with the other. Two yet one. And note here, in such dancing one has to lead and one has to be willing to be led in order to move with grace.
Question: do you think the Creator or Inventor of gender, sexuality and marriage might know what works best in the dance of marriage? There are some great words about what works in scripture. Here is one from 1 Peter 3:7. “Husbands…be considerate as you live with your wives and trust them with respect.”
What does this mean? It means that men need to take responsibility for leadership. They need to stand up and lead like our Lord who led like a servant even washing His disciples’ feet the night before He was crucified and gave up His life for us on the cross. That was quite a LOVE he showed! And of course this means that ladies need to surrender some of their (at least a bit) independence and with good cheer put their selves under the leadership of their husbands, who should represent the Lord in their home.
Do you trust the greatest teacher of mankind in the dance of your marriage?
We note by the way that the state of Minnesota and others have tried to change the meaning of marriage so that men can marry men and women, women! That does not make marriage! Our government cannot actually change the true meaning of marriage! This new thing between two men or two women that can now be called a marriage, is only a contract so that one of the two can collect Social Security and go on Medicare. And we should not be dismayed because that is only some “man-made” decision of a few wayward judges, and it doesn’t change the big picture and in no way puts asunder what God created in the beginning as a union that is designed to be between and a husband and his wife, a man and a woman.
By the way this writer grew up with “Lutheran legs” and to this day we regret never learning to dance. But we enjoy a happy marriage and the Blue Danube at age 94, with my good wife who is both a follower and leader in the dance of life.